When my husband and I decided to start our family in 2018, we had the same hopeful expectation that many do that soon, we’d be holding our little bundle of joy. But what we weren’t prepared for was the heartbreak that followed.
Miscarriages weren’t something people spoke about openly, and because of that, we suffered in silence after losing our first baby. We grieved alone, unsure of where to turn, but we held onto hope and kept trying.
After two more devastating miscarriages, I found myself searching for answers that didn’t seem to exist. It was during this time, while seeking support from a new obstetrician, that I stumbled across the Pink Elephants Support Network. I remember the moment I joined their online community—it was like a weight had been lifted. I wasn’t alone. There were so many women, just like me, navigating this same silent pain, searching for understanding and support.
As we continued our journey, the weight of grief became heavier. Working as a childcare teacher, surrounded by families who had what I longed for, was incredibly difficult.
One day, when it all felt too much, I reached out to one of the wonderful women in the Pink Elephants support chat. She listened and she understood and this was just want I needed in that moment.
After five miscarriages, we were finally blessed with our rainbow baby boy, followed closely by his little brother just 15 months later. But even with these miracles, pregnancy never felt safe. We nearly lost our second son, and fear followed us every step of the way. Still, we poured our hearts and souls into our boys, grateful for the gift of parenthood while carrying the scars of loss.
Three years later, We still felt the longing for the large family we had always envisioned. We tried again, but this time, it wasn’t meant to be. Three more miscarriages, multiple surgeries, and indescribable heartbreak led us to a painful but necessary decision. Our pregnancy journey had come to an end.
It was then that I knew it was time to give back. The Pink Elephants Support Network had been a beacon of hope in my darkest moments, and now, I wanted to ensure that no woman or family had to suffer in silence the way we once did.
Their work advocating for pregnancy loss leave, creating safe online spaces, and providing support from people with lived experience—is truly life-changing.
One thing I’ve learned through this journey is that sharing our stories has the power to help others speak up about theirs. It makes the experience less isolating, less lonely, and more understood. That’s why I now dedicate my energy to raising awareness and funds for Pink Elephants, so that every woman walking this path knows she is not alone.
Last year, I took that commitment one step further by signing up for my first half marathon in Sydney with my best friend to raise funds running together as the healing heart’s squad for the Pink Elephants Support Network. After years of feeling like my body had let me down, this was something I could take control of. Training for the race has been more than just a personal achievement, it has been an opportunity to start conversations, to raise awareness, and to remind people just how many women and families are affected by pregnancy loss. Every step I take is for the families who have walked this road, for the babies who are no longer with us, and for the community that helped me find my strength when I needed it most.
To those still navigating this journey, I see you. Your grief is valid. Your loss matters. And most importantly, you are not alone.
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For those currently struggling with the pain of miscarriage or early pregnancy loss, Pink Elephants offers a range of support online and over the phone.
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