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The Pink Elephants Support Network

Our Peer Support Companions

Our amazing volunteer Companions are an incredibly strong community of women who have all gone through the heartbreaking experiences of losing much-loved babies, and we all want you to know we are so sorry, we truly understand, you are not alone, and you did nothing wrong.

We are here to give you our time, support, empathy, and a safe space for everything you are thinking, feeling, and questioning - which is all real, valid, and normal. The grief of miscarriage and early pregnancy loss can come across in many different ways for many diverse people but we are here to support you through each and every way.

We’ve been where you are, we get it. And we’re walking right next to you through this, together.

Anna – our Peer Support Manager

I understand what it’s like to lose a baby because I did too, and it’s devastating. The grief is consuming and isolating, but you needn’t be alone. We believe it’s of the utmost importance that you are supported through your grief: we are here to listen, validate, support, and empower you through this heartbreaking time. We ‘get it’ because we’ve also gone through it and we are here to help you in any way we can. We are so sorry for your loss.


Having been through IVF, and two losses including a cervical ectopic pregnancy, I understand only too well the isolation and devastation one can feel. I really want to be able to help other women know they are not alone when they suffer from fertility issues and through pregnancy loss and help them navigate the grief it can bring.


I understand how devastating infertility and loss are on a partner and family unit - we endured the loss of eight babies from six pregnancies. My partner carried all 11 of our babies, including our rainbow daughter and our earthside twins. Partners play a unique role in supporting the gestational mother or surrogate while also trying to come to terms with the loss of their child or children. I also understand the anxiety that comes with a pregnancy after loss, and I feel privileged to be able to use this experience to help others, whether this is as a gestational mother, non- gestational mother, or father.


When I experienced 4 miscarriages and a stillbirth with little support from family and friends, I felt lonely and very isolated following my losses. As a Peer Support Companion, I am able to support women and help them through their grief. I understand the importance of a listening ear and making sure a women’s pregnancy loss is acknowledged.


After my miscarriage, I remember the intense feelings of grief, loss, and loneliness. I didn’t get out of bed for several days. I didn’t feel like anybody would understand the feelings that I was having. As a Peer Support Companion, I’m able to do something that I wish someone had done for me. Someone who understands, listens, and validates your pregnancy loss.


Going through a miscarriage at 12 weeks after 2 perfect scans confirming a sac and heartbeat was devastating. I remember waking up in the middle of the night, dealing with the GP and emergency department. Whilst I had good clinical care and a supportive partner, I’d never felt so alone or insignificant in my life. I love everything Pink Elephants stands for, supporting grieving mothers so they don’t have to feel like I felt.


I’ve become a Peer Support Companion so I can connect with, listen to, and support other women who have experienced loss. Loss is a challenging and sometimes isolating experience. I experienced my own in early pregnancy including a missed miscarriage and an ectopic pregnancy, and understand the grief and feelings that come with this. The Pink Elephants Support Network is a wonderful way for women to connect with and support each other, and I’m happy to be a part of the team and to be there for you.


I stand beside you as a mum who has also experienced the heartbreak of miscarriage. The hours, days, weeks, and months that followed my spontaneous miscarriage at almost 15w were deeply sad and challenging. My life changed forever that day. My little one will always be a part of our family and continues to be my “What if..?” Pregnancy after loss gave me a first-hand understanding of the anxiety and challenges both physically and emotionally. As a Companion, I hope to validate those suffering through loss or navigating their way through subsequent pregnancies. I see you, I hear you, and your feelings matter.


My experience with miscarriage was that I felt like I needed to continue on with life as if nothing had happened, all the while feeling profoundly devastated. Although I wanted to speak about what had happened, I found it could make people feel uncomfortable. It’s hard to lean into people’s grief, but that is precisely what is needed to support the grieving person; the presence of someone who has been there. My hope, and reason for becoming a Peer Support Companion, is that no parent should face the pain of losing a baby without a safety net of emotional support.

Lisa H

The experience of pregnancy loss reminds us that we need each other more than ever in our darkest times. Holding the virtual hand of another who is moving through the stages of a loss that you are also familiar with, is one of the most profound acts of humanity. I know the grief and loss of miscarriage and termination intimately, and being able to support others through this is a privilege and also a part of my own journey.

Lisa S

I wanted to be a Peer Support Companion because I want to help other women who have been in the same situation. I don't want others to have those feelings of being alone, of feeling unsupported, of not knowing where to turn, and mostly I want to be able to help mothers normalize their situations and have a safe and secure place to share and be welcomed.


I never expected the grief to be as soul-destroying as it was after my miscarriage. The loneliness, shame, and isolation added to the heartache and I really wasn't sure how I would manage to find my way out. I felt like I found a safe haven of ladies who understood what I was going through when I found The Pink Elephants Support Network. I had found my place of support and I realised, with time, I was going to be ok. I feel very honoured to be a Peer Support Companion, to be given the opportunity to provide the same support, kindness, and love to grieving mothers and families.


Kindness & compassion is at the heart of my role as Peer Support Companion. Having suffered two miscarriages I know how important it is to have someone who understands the grief that comes with loss. I really want to give women the support I would have wanted. I feel that this is the next part of my journey through something that affects so many of us.


I joined Pink Elephants Support Network as a Companion because I know the heartache a mother endures after pregnancy loss. I’ve experienced three miscarriages (and a stillbirth) and for me, it was a very painful period to go through. A mother should feel supported after pregnancy loss and not feel alone. I hope by me offering my support as a Companion I can help make your journey through grief a little easier.


After experiencing fertility challenges and then conceiving naturally only to lose two babies broke my heart. As I shared my heartbreak, it was such a comfort to speak with people who had experienced what I was going through. I am so thankful that Pink Elephants enables me to provide this support to others going through the same heartbreak.


After two healthy pregnancies, I was shattered when a 12-week ultrasound revealed there was no heartbeat. I vividly remember all the emotions I felt – failure, hopelessness, longing, shock, and despair. I was surprised by the depth of my grief at such an early stage. As a Pink Elephants Support Companion, I now walk alongside women who have experienced miscarriage and early pregnancy loss to validate their feelings and show kindness and care – sprinkled with hope.


Having miscarriages felt like my dreams of becoming a mother kept being ripped away from me, and my feelings of loss also seemed less valid as I had no physical evidence of that loss and not many people knew about it. When I was going through IVF and experiencing 2 missed miscarriages I couldn’t quite find what I was looking for support-wise, but as soon as I found Pink Elephants that was focused on miscarriage I knew I wanted to be involved so I could provide the sort of support I wish I had been able to access a few years ago.

Would you like to become a Pink Elephants Peer Support Companion?

If you would like to help others through their grief and give back to our community, please head to our Become a Peer Support Companion page 

Applicants must be at least 12 months + since their last loss, have finished making their family, and have a minimum of 2 hours a week to volunteer for us. Some questions may seem personal but please be assured all information received will be treated with the highest confidentiality.

If your strengths are more suited to other areas within our charity, please email us at: support@pinkelephantssupport.com

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