Our amazing volunteer Ambassadors are an incredibly strong community of women who have all gone through the heartbreaking experiences of losing much-loved babies, and we all want you to know we are so sorry, we truly understand, you are not alone, and you did nothing wrong.
We are here to give you our time, our support, our empathy, and a safe space for everything you are feeling, thinking and questioning - which are all real, valid and normal. The grief of miscarriage and early pregnancy loss can come across in many different ways for many diverse people but we are here to support you through each and every way.
We’ve been where you are, we get it. And we’re in this together.
Anna – our Peer Support Manager
I understand what it’s like to lose a baby because I did too, and it’s devastating. The grief is consuming and isolating but you needn’t be alone. We believe it’s of the utmost importance that you are supported through your grief: we are here to listen, validate, support and empower you through this heartbreaking time. We ‘get it’ because we’ve also gone through it and we are here to help you in any way we can. We are so sorry for your loss.
My partner and I endured the loss of eight babies from six pregnancies. My partner carried all 11 of our babies, including our rainbow daughter and our earth side twins. I understand how devastating infertility and loss is on a partner and family unit. Partners play a unique role in supporting the gestational mother or surrogate while also trying to come to terms with the loss of their child or children. I understand the anxiety that comes with a pregnancy after loss and I feel privileged to be able to use this understanding to help others experiencing miscarriage, infertility or pregnancy after loss, whether this be as a gestational mother, non- gestational mother or father.
Experiencing 4 miscarriages and a stillbirth with little support from family and friends, I felt lonely and very isolated following my losses. As a Peer Support Ambassador, I am able to support women and help them through their grief. I understand the importance of a listening ear and making sure a women’s pregnancy loss is acknowledged.
After my miscarriage, I remember the intense feelings of grief, loss and loneliness. I didn’t get out of bed for several days. I didn’t feel like anybody would understand the feelings that I was having. As a Peer Support Ambassador I’m able to do something that I wish someone had done for me. Someone who understands, listens and validates your pregnancy loss.
Going through a miscarriage at 12 weeks after 2 perfect scans confirming a sac and heartbeat was devastating. I remember waking up in the middle of the night, dealing with the GP and emergency department. Whilst I had good clinical care and a supportive partner, I’d never felt so alone or insignificant in my life. I love everything Pink Elephants stands for, supporting grieving mothers so they don’t have to feel like I felt.
I decided to become an ambassador for Pink Elephants as the cause is close to my heart. Not only experiencing miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy myself and knowing what it feels like to be utterly alone and offered little comfort, I have watched many women suffer losses who have also experienced the loneliness. Watching them suffer in silence made me want to become involved not only to bring support and comfort but also to highlight to the communities just how often someone would experience a loss.
The experience of pregnancy loss reminds us that we need each other more than ever in our darkest times. Holding the virtual hand of another who is moving through the stages of a loss that you are also familiar with, is one of the most profound acts of humanity. I know the grief and loss of miscarriage and termination intimately, and being able to support others through this is a privilege and also a part of my own journey.
I wanted to be a Peer Support Ambassador because I want to help other women who have been in the same situation. I don't want others to have those feelings of being alone, of feeling unsupported, of not knowing where to turn, and mostly I want to be able to help mothers normalize their situations and have a safe and secure place to share and be welcomed.
I never expected the grief to be as soul-destroying as it was after my miscarriage. The loneliness, shame and isolation added to the heartache and I really wasn't sure how I would manage to find my way out. I felt like I found a safe haven of ladies who understood what I was going through when I found The Pink Elephants Support Network. I had found my place of support and I realised, with time, I was going to be ok. I feel very honoured to be a Peer Support Ambassador, to be given the opportunity to provide the same support, kindness and love to grieving mothers and families.
Kindness & compassion is at the heart of my role as Peer Support Ambassador. Having suffered two miscarriages I know how important it is having someone who understands the grief that comes with loss. I really want to give women the support I would have wanted. I feel that this is the next part of my journey through something that affects so many of us.
I joined Pink Elephants Support Network as an ambassador because I know the heartache a mother endures after pregnancy loss. I’ve experienced three miscarriages (and a stillbirth) and for me it was a very painful period to go through. A mother should feel supported after pregnancy loss and not feel alone. I hope by me offering my support as an Ambassador I can help make your journey through grief a little easier.
After experiencing fertility challenges and then conceiving naturally only to lose two babies broke my heart. As I shared my heartbreak, it was such a comfort to speak with people who had experienced what I was going through. I am so thankful that Pink Elephants enables me to provide this support to others going through the same heartbreak.
After two healthy pregnancies I was shattered when a 12 week ultrasound revealed there was no heartbeat. I vividly remember all the emotions I felt – failure, hopelessness, longing, shock and despair. I was surprised by the depth of my grief at such an early stage. As a Pink Elephants Support Ambassador I now walk alongside women who have experienced miscarriage and early pregnancy loss to validate their feelings and show kindness and care – sprinkled with hope.
Having miscarriages felt like my dreams of becoming a mother kept being ripped away from me, and my feelings of loss also seemed less valid as I had no physical evidence of that loss and not many people knew about it. When I was going through IVF and experiencing 2 missed miscarriages I couldn’t quite find what I was looking for support-wise, but as soon as I found Pink Elephants that was focused on miscarriage I knew I wanted to be involved so I could provide the sort of support I wish I had been able to access a few years ago.
Would you like to become a Pink Elephants’ Peer Support Ambassador?
If you would like to help others through their grief and give back to our community, and have a couple of hours a week to give, please fill out the form below. Applicants must be at least 12 months + since their last loss, and also have finished making their family. Some questions may seem personal but please be assured all information received will be treated with the highest confidentiality. If your strengths are more suited to other areas within our charity, please email us at: email@example.com
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