Dialog Box

The Pink Elephants Support Network

Shared Stories


A crack in my heart

Last week proved to be the hardest week of my entire life. It was the week in which I lost my baby. And my world broke open. It fell apart.

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My Miscarriage During Covid-19

I found out I was pregnant early May which delighted us to be expanding our family (we already have a 2 and half year old). From around 5-10 weeks I was so ill due to the pregnancy – bedridden, sick, dizzy, unable to look after our daughter, all good signs of a healthy pregnancy so they say.

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Ectopic Pregnancy - Location Unknown

It sounds so cold and clinical – “unknown location”. But that’s what it’s called. Your body is sending all the signals that you are pregnant, but a baby can’t be seen on the screen anywhere. It started when I got what I thought was my period. I bled for 11 days straight and had a pain on my right side so I thought I should probably go to the doctor.

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Due for a Miscarriage

Statistically, I was “due” for a miscarriage. It happens to one in four women in Australia. But after three healthy pregnancies, I never considered miscarriage to be a real threat. I had conceived naturally and with ease and felt very “compatible” with pregnancy. Foolishly, I didn’t think it would happen to me.

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In My Heart & In My Memories

I always found it strange when people said ‘I/we lost the baby’. So, when it was my turn to use that phrase, I just couldn’t. For me, a miscarriage was attached to images of women bleeding and experiencing a huge physical loss. I didn’t have these things.

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Shadows of a Miscarriage

I was 14 and a half weeks along in my second pregnancy when I experienced our miscarriage. Our hearts were broken and the tears were continual. Our world stopped spinning.  What I didn’t really understand before this happened, was the shadow that extends beyond the miscarriage itself....

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Inspiring Support

I have been on an "IVF Journey" for 5 years, and completed 6 cycles. I was lucky on my third cycle and became pregnant, but unfortunately lost our baby at 3 months and have never been successful since. It has just been heartache after heartache.

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Recurrent Miscarriage

Pushing 40

I experienced my first loss 2 years ago after having had two normal pregnancies. I fell pregnant and had all the usual symptoms I'd had in my other pregnancies... that was until I started to experience some spotting.

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My Journey So Far

I write this story on my way to Melbourne for a specialist appointment, reflecting on the tough journey so far, but hopeful for some answers. To date I have had 3 missed miscarriages and 3 D&C’s. It’s hard to tell which time was the hardest, the 1st or the 3rd.

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Breaking the Silence

I don’t think I am ever going to be able to find the exact words I want to entirely explain how miscarriage and baby loss makes you feel. It’s unique. Only those who suffer miscarriage and baby loss can truly understand the boundless heartache and emptiness it brings, along with the silence that surrounds it.

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Assisted Conception

My Fertility Road

It's been a while since I've thought about it, until a friend told me she was pregnant. While I'm happy for her, I had a small pang of 'I wish...' We have two healthy and happy girls so I'm not complaining, it was just a hard road to get to this point.

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Infertility & PGD

My husband and I wanted to start a family right after our wedding in October 2010, so in 2011 I came off the pill and we tried. I fell pregnant and was so happy that our journey seemed an easy one. Boy was I wrong. 

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The Emotional Merry-go-round of Infertility and Loss

I've had four miscarriages: two in 2017, one in 2018 and one in 2019. We also have a daughter born in 2015 with no prior losses. We are currently going through IVF in the hope that science makes better embryos than we do.

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Secondary Infertility & Miscarriage

Secondary infertility is a rocky path. You long to be part of the community you once were when you were childless, but there is a fine line about where you fit in. You can relate to all the 'mum' type posts, but also carry the pain that those without children endure.

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Where Do I Belong?

For some, the road to parenthood is paved in frustration and grief. The thing that has struck me most about this journey is how unfair it is. Nothing in life is fair, but there seems to be a great injustice that good people who would make wonderful parents, can spend years without a child to love. 

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My Life of Love

Our journey to have a family is a long and complicated story filled with sadness, love and determination. Our story is more than can be described here but it has sadly included two TFMRs - terminations for medical reasons. 

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A Heartbreaking Decision 

I was over the moon when I saw the little pink line confirming I was pregnant with my first child. Although I knew at the back of my mind that things can sometimes go wrong, I was bursting with happiness and rejoiced in sharing my excitement with family and friends. 

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Never the Same

I am a very happy (and grateful) mother to a beautiful 10 year old bright, bubbly and vivacious daughter. It has been a long time since I lost my two precious babies, but there is honestly not a day that goes by where I don’t wonder what could have been.

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Trisomy 13

With our first pregnancy, we tried for 1.5 years to get pregnant, and needed fertility help. It was hard and frustrating and felt like it took an eternity. This time around, we knew that could happen again. We waited to try until we were ready, but also kept in mind that it might take a year or two to conceive.

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Four Angels

My journey to be a mum started when I was about to turn 38. Until then I never wanted children, I thought my life was complete with my two gorgeous dogs, until one night I had a dream that I desperately wanted a baby.

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Pregnancy After Loss

Pregnancy After Multiple Losses

We decided to start a family in 2000. Within 3 months I was pregnant and 9 months later we welcomed our daughter into our lives. 7 months later, I fell pregnant unexpectedly and found out on Christmas Eve that I'd miscarried.

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Rainbow After Multiple Miscarriages

I’d always been a perfectionist and a planner, and having a baby was no different. As a 27 year old with no chronic medical conditions, I thought conceiving and carrying a baby to term would be a walk in the park. However, this journey taught me that life is dynamic, and most importantly, unpredictable.

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My Rainbow Baby

I’m sitting here writing this with my rainbow baby laying on my chest. To those of you currently pregnant after one or more losses, I bow down to you. It’s far from an easy path you’re embarking on. It's a complete and utter emotional rollercoaster.

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I am 1 in 4 - The Journey to My Rainbow

They say 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in miscarriage. 1 in 4 took on a different meaning to me after my last loss – it meant only 1 in 4 of my pregnancies resulted in a baby in my arms to take home.

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My Rainbow After Many Storms

In November 2015 we welcomed our first daughter into the world. She was a surprise pregnancy but welcomed none the less. When she was born we had it all planned out, we wanted an 18-month age gap between our children, so at nine months we would start trying.

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Letting Go

Moving on After Miscarriage

Ever since I can remember I’ve wanted to be a mum. When it came time to make that decision to start trying I had no idea what was before me. I thought it would be simple and my excitement, hope and belief in falling was never in doubt. Everyone else does it right? All my friends had no problems so why should I? How wrong I was.

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